Mastery: Becoming a Leader of Light in a Changing World
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we expect the best in others, and create
from the belief that that "best" is
possible, then we can move mountains. Creating
intentional community is part of that mountain-making,
part of embracing the tenets of courage,
compassion, connection and commitment in
our relationships so that we can proactively
build a culture that reflects the same.
Why allow yourself or those around you
to accept workplace reality as nothing
more than a series of habits, reactions
or negative resentments from some distant
past in the workplace to define the "NOW"?
In this show, we will cover the three approaches
needed to break the hold on isolation that
occurs when we subscribe to business as
usual, instead of business at it's best!
I- Using the highest self (our words) best
self, big picture self to envision what
is possible ...... versus creating from
the little "i" - personality
the power of compassion to look at our
selves and others as works in progress-
if they could do things differently, they
resilency over resistance ....recognizing
our own resistant reactions to letting
the past go, living in the now versus choosing
conviction- staying the course and holding
a vision no matter what your current "reality" looks
like---being patient, allowing the process
to unfold in each person as you guide that
The poison to your productivity
has a way of creeping up on you and your
career. It creates
resentment where none needs to exist, so
why do we let it interfere with
risk taking? Whether it is fear of failure,
embarrasment, rejection or
even fear of accomplishment, regret has a
way of paralyzing our vision
of self- potential. In this show, we will
talk about what you can do to
help yourself take more risks and avoid the "Regret
Expectations: When You And Your Employees
Are Not On The Same Page
happens to all of us, usually when we least
expect it. We are just not on the same
page. As a matter of fact, we are not even
in the same BOOK…Yes, we are all
laughing because we know it to be true,
but when you are in the middle of a performance
evaluation, an important meeting, a public
conversation, or any interaction, sharing
the SAME outlook is critical. What is the
source? Where does it all begin? You might
not be surprised to know it is expectations…Have
you shared yours? We will cover the three
key things you need to know to get on the
Not Always A Conscious Choice
does GroupThink affect perception and objectivity
in the workplace? Because it is not a conscious
process, it can drive decisions toward
limitation instead of inclusion and creativity.
If you or your team is stuck in “habitual” decision
making, this training will provide a new
approach to old issues. Assist your employees
and managers with understanding group think
and how it can derail an organization’s
plans for the future by listening to this
You Isolating Coworkers And Not Knowing
you ever worked with someone that (most)
everyone sees as a “nudge”?
Have you ever been on a team with someone
who just drives everyone crazy? Have you
ever had to work closely with someone that
just, literally, drains your energy? Wonder
if that someone is you? It need not be
a life-theme of yours. It could just be
a “temporary” set back, when
you are just not your buoyant self. However,
regardless if it is you, someone else,
long term or temporary, there is a core
reason that creates “isolationism”.
In this radio show, we will cover what
you need to know for others, yourself and
investment in your “like-ability. ”
You Being Managed By Fear ?
Drop-Dead Signs That It Is Happening
all have had "difficult" managers;
however, sometimes difficult becomes
management by fear or intimidation. The
tragedy is, many of these leaders and
managers do not KNOW that this is how
they are managing. With years of going
uncontested, even encouraged by cultures
that allow this approach to leadership,
a manager can not only lose their potential
to excel, but can drive away great employees
and take departments down in the process.
And yet, the good news is - change can occur.
Everyone has the capacity to change, when they are given the feedback
they require and the concrete intervention and coaching they need to step into
their full potential
all that apply below based on experiences
you may have had in the past or even
the present. Use the key at the bottom
to get a reading on what action should
or could be taken.
need to control others actions
by micro-managing detail or situations
in which the employee has proven competency
telling is the norm rather than
are resistant/hesitant to share
their perceptions because of retribution
specific employees is occurr
Questions To Ask Yourself
you ever found yourself in a situation
where you heard yourself say, " I
can't believe they would do that?".
Well, it happens, often when we least expect
it. Betrayal is a fact of life and unfortunately,
when so many are driven by fear, it happens
just as often in the workplace.
it was a confidence shared, a project executed,
or a personal betrayal, the initial effects
are the same- denial and anger. Once you
are able to acknowledge these emotions,
you can begin the most important chapter
of this "life lesson"- what
can I learn about MYSELF?
we consider that every relationship we
have with others in some way reflects our
beliefs about ourselves, then even disappointments
such as these can make sense.
are a few key questions to ask yourself:
I too trusting?
Did I have a blind spot to this persons behavior?
Was I ignoring the "signs" that pointed to questionable trust?
Did I spend more time "fixing" or "fighting" the situation
than was needed?
Did I get a "gut feeling" at any time that I ignored!
When you choose to look at the situation
with eyes wide open,
willing to see what you might have missed,
then the learning becomes easier. No one is perfect- including you.
And you know what? That is really okay.
Terminate or Not To Terminate...
4 Signs That Your Staff Needs You To
THE STORY OF "KAREN"
"Karen" was late for the second time this week.
She arrived at work, and within 15 minutes pulled out her phone
Telling a joke around 10 am, she got her co-workers to laugh until
they cried. Returning to their computer screens, they smiled, thinking
how great it was to work here when she was "on her game".
1:45 pm she was 20 minutes late returning
In the middle of the afternoon rush, she triaged a demanding
customer, and they walked away to sing her praises.
Confusing two crucial orders, her supervisor happened to catch
her mistake and corrected it before it would have cost the department
thousands of dollars.
Have you got the picture
Karen" is your nightmare employee. Why?
Because she calls you to be THE critical thinker,
objective and measured, strategic and compassionate-
all at the same time.
I have met many "Karens". So have
Well meaning, even talented, they wreak havoc
on the remaining staff and create chaos for
In this weeks show, we will cover how to know
when to cut the cord and do it in a way that
What emotions are you "spreading" to
others, even unknowingly?
Every emotion we experience has a corresponding physical reaction within the
body. Frustration, anger, sadness and other "emotions" can be identified
and even tracked with the proper instrumentation, as demonstrated by Heart Math
, an international organization dedicated to increasing awareness of Heart-Brain
connection. Research shows the our "electromagnetic field" can be felt
Consider the obvious: What emotions are you "spreading" to others,
We become what we think about.
Is No One Listening To Me?
What you need to
know today to get others
HI often will hear clients complain that no one listens to them
in the workplace (and at home, for that matter!). Now, we know
that it is likely an exaggeration that no one listens; however,
when you perceive there is a theme going on in the listening department,
maybe it is time to take a little stroll down the behavioral boardwalk!
Consider these questions to gain more clarity:
What does it look like when people ARE listening to you?
Become conscious of what feels good to you, what listening actually
looks like in your world? When you can be clear about your needs,
you can share them with others. Once your co-workers and friends
know what you need, the ball is in their court to meet you half
Do you say things that are
worth listening to?
human beings, we tend to gravitate to others
of like mind or philosophy.
Basically we like to spend time with people
who make us "feel good". What kind
of energy boost or drain do you offer others?
Are you complaining more than you realize?
Could you be using relationships as a dumping
ground for your toxic emotions? Is it time
to put a deposit in your relationship bank
and focus on listening to what others may
need or want?
Hey, you never know, you
just might shift things if you shift your
If you are looking for a solution to any
the greatest success begins with a "Self
Do I Know It Is Time To Let Go?
What You Need To Know Today
How do you know it is time to let go of something in your life? How do you know
that you have given it your all and that you can walk away with the satisfaction
of trying your "utmost" to make something work. Whether it is
a co-worker connection or a personal relationship, a way of life or change in
career, too many of us ignore the signs that answer this very question.
There is a difference in being persistent and stubborn persistence (Harrison
Inner View). Think of spuds Mackenzie, the famous pit-bull dog from commercials
past. Known for his "lock jaw" approach to getting the job done, he
became the symbol for commitment in the extreme. We all know employees, friends
and even family who choose to hang on, long after it serves them, or anyone else,
for that matter. Becoming overwhelmed with what happens once you let go
paralyzes your ability to act.
Being observant and courageous to see things as they are can be the first step
to personal and professional freedom.
Noticed Any Of These Lately?
What have you been experiencing in your life? If it has been longer
than a couple of months, consider your candidacy for personal change.
You feel that you have to do it all yourself
You have run out of motivation
You are spending time in "the past"
You are exhausted
Life is full of snags and "bad timing"
You are trying too hard
You feel restless
You feel like you are in two places at the same time all the time
People interpret you the wrong way
When nothing seems to yield
When something you are involved in or with consistently gives you more pain
Life feels mechanical
Season of Unreason:
Recalibrating Your Workplace To Reduce Holiday Stress
The Ghosts of Holiday Past, Present and Future
ho ho and all that good stuff, right? As
we enter the final weeks that lead to the
holidays and with that the countdown to
the THREE GHOSTS OF HOLIDAY PAST, PRESENT
AND FUTURE, we guarantee you three trends
will surface. The trick is knowing what
they might “look like” and
most importantly WHY they are on the increase
for your employees and co-workers. This
is a time filled with anxiety as often
as it is filled with joy, but you need
not be on the receiving end of it. As a
leader, it is essential to know how you
can field the three trends when they appear.
Where most talk of the traditional “holiday
stress”, etc., we will surprise you
with our take on what is really happening
and how you can help.
To Tell When An Employee, Co-Worker of Friend
Is Draining Your Energy
is a touchy subject; one which many of us would
rather avoid. First of all, who wants to admit
that someone you consider a friend is actively
draining your energy. What is more challenging
is when that drain is a co-worker that you have
no choice but to work with. We will speak to the “signs” of
of this dynamic so you can become more aware of
when it is happening to you. Tune in especially
if you are in the helping professions, as this
is a common occurrence with clients as well.
The Credit: Why
Is It One Of The Smartest Things You Could
Do For Your Career!
you want to give credit to others, even if it might
mean you will not be identified as the “winner”, “hero” or
competent one? Can you believe for a minute, that “appropriate” sharing
of credit is not only a good thing but one of the
smartest things you can do TODAY to become more valuable
in the workplace. Yes, we know this is a stretch,
but get out your exercise mat and stretch with us!
You will be glad you did.
You Being Put Out To Pasture?
you ever had secret thoughts you were being “selected
out” of the career ladder, loop or opportunity
to be visible in the workplace? If you have, you
are not alone and frankly, many employees will
at some time entertain such thoughts. In looking
for a solution, the important focus are these two
questions: is your perception “real” and
what can you do about it? We will speak to these
and you will gain insight about how to “drill
down” and check your perceptions and their
Your Boss Is Afraid Of Change And
is nobody’s friend, come on let’s
get honest! And yet, when change and your “boss” are
mentioned in the same sentence, it can get
even go the way of “foe”. However,
there is hope. Learning how to “manage” your
boss’s reaction to change is possible
and easier than you think. We will cover
three things you can do today to help both
you and your boss shift the tide and welcome
the fresh perspective that change brings.
Are You Ready To Deliver It?
all can talk about receiving feedback from
co-workers and other important people in
our lives; however, when providing feedback,
we need a completely different set of skills
to be successful. Unfortunately, many of
the skills to conceptualize and then deliver
constructive feedback are not within the
average skill-set. In this program, we will
talk you through 10 key considerations that
you need to keep in mind as you prepare yourself.
Communication is necessary for your success
and you cannot escape the need to communicate
in all areas of life. Listen in for practical
steps to get you started.
Difference Between Observation And Opinion
You Need To Know
you ever heard someone be asked for an observation
and you proceed to listen to a judgment- filled
diatribe? Do you realize one of the most important
skills of advanced leadership is to know the difference
between observation and opinion and how it affects
everything you do each and every day. Listen in
so you can learn the difference with us.
Mongers- How To Re-Route Them To The "Good
not fool ourselves, rumors can distract even
the most logical and dedicated of any employee.
Also, rumors provide a vital role in your
organization, If you are listening and know
how to work with the information, you can
get a pulse on the collective morale of your
business. However, before you get to this
point, you need to address those who feed
off the fear and frustration that rumors
incite. The question is how- and that is
what we will be discussing.
Appraisal Disasters -
#1 Tendency You Want To Avoid
dreaded performance appraisal! It is like
taxes; it comes all too quickly and so often
is tedious. For so many, the performance
appraisal process is hollow, meaningless.
For managers, many of whom have never been
trained properly in how to conduct one, it
is a task they would rather avoid. However,
no matter where you stand, there is ONE tendency
that is CRITICAL to avoid in the meeting.
If you work this approach, the results will
be more accurate and your team more motivated.
We will let you in on the big secret during
You Isolating Your Co-Workers? What
You Should Know
you ever worked with someone that (most)
everyone sees as a “nudge”?
Have you ever been on a team with someone who just drives everyone crazy? Have
you ever had to work closely with someone that just, literally, drains your energy?
Wonder if that someone is you? It need not be a life-theme of yours. It could
just be a “temporary” set back, when you are just not your buoyant
self. However, regardless if it is you, someone else, long term or temporary,
there is a core reason that creates “isolationism”. Tune in and listen
to what you need to know.
No One Seems To Be Listening -
May Really Be Going On
all complain that we are not being “listened” to.
It comes from all directions- personally, professionally
and one thing we definitely can count on: we cannot
take ourselves out of the equation. Believe it
or not, any exchange between two parties involves
2 parties! We tend to forget this when we perceive
we are being left out of the loop; however, the
responsibility for “whole listening” is
everyone’s. We will cover what this means
and provide you with a few specific actions you
can take today to get the “air time” you
When You And Your Employees Are Not On The Same Page
happens to all of us, usually when we least expect
it. We are just not on the same page. As a matter
of fact, we are not even in the same BOOK…Yes,
we are all laughing because we know it to be true,
but when you are in the middle of a performance
evaluation, an important meeting, a public conversation,
or any interaction, sharing the SAME outlook is
critical. What is the source? Where does it all
begin? You might not be surprised to know it is
expectations…Have you shared yours? We will
cover how to get the ball rolling and make sure
you know the most important points to share with
Them To Transcend The Barrier Of
is a tricky thing- it comes up in the most
unpredictable and inconvenient times. Are you
jealous of co-workers when you least expect
it? Would you know jealousy when you experienced
it, or do you suppress it to a more “acceptable” internal
emotional state? Just a reminder, when we chose
consciously or unconsciously to push down unacceptable
feelings, they WILL surface sooner or later.
And when they do, they are more “viral” than
ever! In this show, we will chat you up on
how to manage the situation in a way that can
not only relieve the pressure within yourself
and help your colleagues transcend one of the
more divisive emotions known on the planet!
Portrait Of Integrated Leadership:
Live Discussion With Jonas Congelli, Pharmacy Director, Hematology
Oncology Of Central New York
is our supreme pleasure
to have our guest, Jonas
Congelli, join us for
this show. He has emerged
as a strategic game changer
by virtue of his ability
and commitment to demonstrate
courage, compassion and
surfacing from a 5 month
team development experience,
Jonas, once a self-declared
skeptic to the integrated
approach to leadership,
now is choosing to embrace
its power. Have you ever
wondered how a leader
can actually take the
concepts and make them
viable in the “real
world”? If you
find yourself curious,
tune and listen to this
conversation to learn
how one intrepid leader
became a uniquely confident
and poised inspiration
to his staff.
Vibration Of Fear And Why It Will Take You “Out” Of Line For Promotion
you concentrate on, you will create. Thoughts
are things, and like all “things” in
the physical world, they have a vibratory
frequency. Like attracts like, as we experience
magnetism in both objects and relating.
So, when you desire something and simultaneously
fear you will not “get” it,
you send mixed messages to the “universe”,
as it were. Why would you care? Because
if you are creating the possibility of
a promotion, the quality of your thoughts
as well as your deeds before hand is critical.
They must be aligned to be successful.
The problem most of us have, but do not
realize, is the need to manage our creative
mind-set as well as the emotional “fuel” which
drives it. This will prove to be a very
valuable show, one which will deliver you
a new perspective altogetheron upward
Freedom To Forgive:
When Co-Workers Betray You
it possible to truly forgive someone who has betrayed
you? What if that person is just “someone you
work with?” And frankly, why do we care to
forgive them if they have sold us up the river? Does
it really make a difference in the long run? This
is a difficult subject and one which is sure to touch
off strong opinions on either side of the issue.
The important consideration, however, is one that
is infinitely bigger than whether or not to let go
of a painful betrayal. The bigger issue and your
management of it in ANY capacity, has ripple effects
that reaches its hand much deeper into the organization.
If you are curious what we mean by that, please tune
in live or pull up our archived show to hear how three
words can change the future of your
Bullies - Why You Need Them!
ever thought that a bully could be a good
thing? Do you? What do you do and where
go when the bully of the department or organization
shows up? How do you make the correct choice
when the bully pushes your buttons? Bullies
what they appear to be and the greatest disservice
we do for ourselves is relating to them in
the same way we did when 8, 9 or 10 years old.
someone in your life takes a “position”,
such as bullying, they can be a powerful
teacher for you. That positional relating
allows you to take a look at where your emotional
intelligence gaps are and manage them better.
Tune in so we can give you a few ideas that
you can use right awa. Dissolve the hold
bullies have on you, friends. It's as easy
And Other Teachers:
You Need To Know To Not Only Survive, But Thrive
have been millions made on the re-training
of individuals to open the doorway
the reduction of sexual harassment in the workplace
and other dysfunctional and even illegal behaviors.
The intention of the Human Resource community has
been to educate employees in identifying the “ signs” of
harassment, etc. What has not been a focus, however,
is the underlying message and lesson that stands
behind each of these experiences. Victimhood is
a disease of great proportion in the human condition
and workplace issues such as these are part of
the evolution of employees and people, in general
away from that mentality. We have a unique take
on this issue from the perspective of self reflection.
Please join us to see what we have to say.
The Insanity! Knowing When And How
You Can Stop Struggling With
is not a way of life if you know where to focus
your energy. That means when you are face to
face with anyone who is draining your energy
you do have a choice. Most people are so involved
in the drama, so exhausted by the tug of war
that characterizes the day to day exchanges,
they do not know where to begin healing the dynamic.
In this show we will talk about the cost of the
struggle to you physically due to stress as well
as the most important thing to know to dismantle
the dynamic of struggle in and of itself.
Passive Aggressive Coworker
Aggressive behavior and the people that
use it are often totally unaware of this
fact. Most often, Passive-Aggressive’s
(PA’s), think of themselves as the
victim in their relationships. They are
masters of manipulation, superior at timing,
spinning and reweaving what they say to
create positional power in their conversations.
They create divisiveness, stress and factions
everywhere they go. It is their way to
gain and hold power without taking responsibility
for their own choices. In our radio show
this week, we will discuss how to spot
a true PA, the difference between aggressive
and truly assertive communication and how
to spot your own personal triggers
Do You Do When Everyone Else Seems
To Be Asking You To Change…?
is a tricky subject no matter whether you
find yourself at work or at home. How do
you resolve the age-old question, “if
only he (or she) would change…”
easy out on this one is assuming everyone “else” is
100% correct or 100% wrong. It is human
nature to be defensive and certainly when
you get consistent or thematic feedback
from 3 or more sources that the issue is “yours”…The
truth is somewhere in the middle and that
is what we will focus on in this show….How
to sort through the defensiveness and determine
if your behavior is causing a real business
issue or the rumblings of a few disgruntled
co-workers. This is a powerful issue for
many and will prove to be a powerful show.
And Paycheck: Yes, You Can Have Both
In Your Career
were born to love your role as a creator
in the world. Did you know that? Did you
forget that? Perhaps you grew up in a house
which delivered the message early on: work
is a means to an end; your “real” life
begins after 5 pm?
spend more time with co-workers than your
own family…You will donate 35% of
your waking time to your “job” and
workplace (40 of 112 hours ). People usually
spend more time picking out a television
set than they do their job. If you believe
that you have no choice but to give up
and take what “life” has handed
you, if you feel drained, exhausted or
just depressed every time you walk through
the doors of your workplace, tune in. We
will give you a fresh incentive to believe
that you can create an opportunity for
passion in your career.
Co-Workers: The Three Things You
Want To Know
you have siblings? Brothers, sisters or both?
Do you remember when things got the most divisive?
Was it in the back of the station wagon on the
way to vacation? Could it have been when it was
time to set the table or rake the lawn? Perhaps
in your house it was when grandparents came by
for a birthday or holiday? Do you see the pattern?
Backbiting has a history and you have lived its’ painful
limitations longer than you will likely remember
consciously. If you don’t see the pattern
yet, tune in and find out! You will feel a heavy
burden lift as you listen to us connect the dots
of understanding for you. Once you "get it",
you can face backbiting head on and do something
constructive about it.
Or Freedom: Knowing The Signals When
Are Making Fear-Based
majority of businesses and the marketplace
as a whole are driven by fear. Fear of
what, you may ask? FEAR of personal reprisal,
of embarrassment, of power diminished.
To put it bluntly, business is more often
that not run by EGO and the most basic
instincts of human interaction….kill
or be killed….eat or be eaten….
Fear stops creativity, courage and ultimately
limits the productivity of people and processes.
FEAR is the single most invasive menace
to your workplace, so why do leaders let
it transform their lives and teams?
do you know when your employees or co-workers
are making decisions rooted in FEAR and
not in the freedom that is possible if
it is chosen? Tune in and find out!
Integrity When Others Fail In Theirs
you fallen on your “sword”, taking
the fall for those who may not deserve your loyalty?
Is it worth it? Have you ever been so disappointed
in the leadership of your organization that you
considered leaving? When you saw, as Dorothy,
Tin Man, Scarecrow and the Lion did, that the
Great Wizard was nothing more than a frightened
and aging old man? Yes, dissapointment does exist
as does your ability to to transcend the temptations
to "throw the fight" and lose your
integrity does. How do you assess your needs
and wants and then put the pieces together in
a way that brings some meaning into your leadership
role? When temptation is high, your sights can
still be clear and your insight accurate and
focused. Tune in and find out what we have experienced
that might work for you.
Me? Manage MY BOSS?
happens to all of us, that moment in time
when we come face to face with a stark reality...Our
boss is human, and even worse, not necessarily
good at being a boss. If this is your circumstance,
what do you do? First of all, don’t
give up or in- there is hope. You can’t
fundamentally change another person- we learned
that in psychology 101. However, what most
of us have never learned is that you can manage
your relationship with your superiors while
knowing you can not change their primary style
or their core values. Have you reached the
end of your rope with this one? Are you contemplating
leaving your organization because you can’t
work with your director, manager or supervisor?
We will cover key points to help you gain
perspective, and ultimately, a strategy that
can make all the difference for you.
You Trust Your Boss?
happens to most of us at one time or another,
that quick, dark, thought…’Can
I trust my superior?
you one of those who will occasionally, or
more often, double check your conversations,
alter what information you might share with
your superior, or choose not to pass information
along altogether because you don’t know
if you can trust what they will do with it?
These concerns are real and they affect employees
everyday. It is a “taboo” subject
in the organization because bringing it up
or attempting to work it through can open
a can of worms that could make your life even
know we can’t change other people, and
so how do we take care of ourselves in the
process? How do work for someone who has proven
to be untrustworthy? Believe it or not, there
are a few things that can help you refocus
your attention and even your concerns in a
positive direction. Tune in to hear more on
the subject that is likely the cause of more
people leaving an organization than we would
like to admit.
Right: "He Said", "She Said"
The Eternal Struggle For the Ultimate
you are approached by someone, anyone,
in your organization, to sort through a round
of accusations to find the hidden truth in
a situation, you know you have your work cut
out for you. Keeping your head clear, your
facts straight and STILL attempting to get
to the "source" of the conflict
can drive you crazy and test your skill as
an observer. After all, whoever said one person
has a corner on the "truth"...or
today's show, we will reveal what this pattern
is really telling you about the employees
involved and how you can strengthen your leadership
reputation and skill in the midst of chaos.
If you are exhausted by the endless list of
accusations, undercutting remarks, offhanded
barbs in passing or what can look like the
tediousness of some folks "mentalities",
listen in. Do you know what remedy is really
needed? We will help you there too. Do yourself
a favor, imagine a world in which you cut
your stress in half immediately while teaching
others how to resolve He-Said, She-Said dilemmas
with the touch only a Leader Using Self Mastery
Courage To Choose: Start Your New Year
By Throwing Out ALL Your Resolutions
all are well intentioned at the beginning
of every new year, aren't we?
goals, measurable results, excitement about
what we are "finally" going to commit
to is what fuels us to step into the unknown,
the uncharted territory of ourselves. We sign
up for the weight loss plans, vow to quit
that unattractive habit and shore ourselves
up to begin anew. And what is more, we carry
the belief that life is about to change into
the workplace, allowing ourselves to dream
big! "This department is going to change.",
"My relationship with ____ is about to
turn the corner.", "I have the ability
to get out of this organization and start
the business I always wanted."..........
two - four weeks later, we more often than
not find ourselves right back where we started-
frustrated, dissapointed and, in some cases,
even desperate for the change we wished for.
We give up before we even gave ourselves and
each other the chance to make the change.
And the cycle begins again.
you ever asked yourself the REAL reason why
these change attempts fail? We will give you
a hint- it has to do with courage, and not
the kind that comes from the cowardly lion.
Courage comes as part of a formula that defines
your effectiveness and satisfaction as a human
being and a leader. The formula has to do
with not WHAT you focus on, but WHERE you
focus your attention.
to the show live or download the archive.
Learn when and how to shift your focus so
that you can side step the cycle of disappointment
which so often comes to “set up shop”
this time of year.
Back- looking forward: the relationship between
"You" and "you"
a year it has been out there in the world.
How has it gone for you, in there, in "your
world"? The year end is a time for reflection
and a time to project forward into next year,
the "next" opportunity to become
something that was missing in your life up
until now. We believe that through setting
goals we will find our way into a better place-
emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually.
However, just as soon as those new goals are
set, we find a reason to break them, to not
"honor" them in some way. And so,
the cycle of self blame and judgment and in
some cases, despair perpetuate themselves
into another "year".
want you to do the opposite of setting goals,
in FACT, we do not want you to set any goals
at all. In this show, we focus instead, on
the process of aligning and allowing
as the first and only step you need take to
turn your world into what you most truly want.
Your answers do not come from pushing harder,
they come from listening more closely to the
ongoing discussion between "You"
and "you"- your most actuated self
and the one you see and experience everyday.
time to tune in and enjoy the vibration of
the season without the commercialism or distraction
that is common place to the most profound
experience of the holidays- self love. We
will provide a download-able meditation that
will lift your thoughts as it lifts your personal
vibration during this last week before Christmas.
Holidays: The Season of Unreason and how to
help your Employees through tough times
ho ho and all that jazz....right? After all,
the holidays come only once a year, so we
are good to go for a lot of fun and frivolity....well,
not quite that fast, friends. These days can
be stressful at best and disastrous for others
for reasons that extend far beyond the workplace.
Financial circumstances, the re-emergence
of family tensions as holiday gatherings are
anticipated, the memories of previous holidays
and the pain that may be associated with those
memories all combine to create the potential
for a difficult holiday season for some. Managing
individual expectations and helping your teams
to manage theirs is essential to your tool
box for leading with light. We will share
a few ideas to assist you to navigate through
these weeks of tension and the eruptions that
can result due to the happiness of the
All Systems Go?
A Daily “Cross Check” System Will
Improve Your Leadership Influence
a systems review for your interpersonal mastery
on a daily basis should be as routine as having
that first cup of coffee every morning or
knowing what your favorite color is. So why
is it that the majority of leaders do not
hold themselves accountable to a daily “check
in” to confirm that they are grounded,
clear and prepared for their day on an interpersonal
level? We know one thing, as soon as you step
out the front door, you will be barraged with
drama and chaos that is inevitable in any
expect airplane pilots to conduct their cross-check
to ensure a safe flight, why do we not do
the same for ourselves? Checking your instrumentation,
flight path, looking at the weather is equally
needed in your organization as it is flying
to Detroit. Making a commitment to conducting
your own cross check is critical to maintaining
mastery. In this show, we will cover how to
set up a routine and the questions to ask
yourself to confirm you are centered.
You Need a Workplace EQ Intervention?
when to step in and facilitate an intervention
for Emotional Intelligence improvement
is a delicate subject, but one you must be
prepared to lead when necessary. The key is
recognizing the signs that an outside "influence"
is needed to jumpstart and redirect employee
dynamics. Today we will address the three
signals that your wisdom is required: the
situation has gone "viral", contaminating
others beyond the individual who is off track,
the situation requires more resources than
the employees have available in their tool
box (interpersonal skill or wisdom), the situation
will render "sustained" relational
damage to the employees involved, which marginalizes
the employees who are impacted.
of the time, we all do the very best we can
with what skills and abilities we have. However,
all of us have a blind spot or two, are triggered
by behavior around us and without powerful
mentorship, can become enmeshed in our own
habitual reactions. Mary and Maryann will
address the three signs and how to intervene
In A Leaders Gratitude Journal: A Year In
are you grateful for this year? What would
you think if we told you your greatest gifts
could be coming to to you from your moments
of confusion, irritation or even downright
falling out with those around you in your
"community"....What if losing your
job, watching a spouse or loved one lose theirs,
an employee who struggles with addiction or
negative behavior that effects the team or
a peer who is "selected" over you
for a promotion are the events that you, yourself
have created? Yes, you have created.....it
may be impossible to believe and that is why
we have such an important message to share
with you about your power and presence as
an emerging leader of light in a changing
world. If your experience in the last year
seems to be threaded with deeper and more
provactive challenges than ever, congratulations...You
are on the fast track and we would even venture,
you have joined the growing number of world-wide
leaders who are emerging from the "everyman"
among us. The new language of leadership does
not come from those who sit in high and mighty
places, but from those who have walked and
are walking "everymans" journey.
And that includes you.
will be talking through key transformational
experiences that leaders we know and work
with have been walking through this year,
including our own stories, as we help you
for your next chapter in 2012.
WE CAN’T IGNORE WHAT IS HAPPENING ON
WORKPLACE REVOLUTION AT HAND
Revolution is Underway for Workplace Transformation
- Are You In?
Back! Our fall show schedule is ready to rock
your clock, wake you up and get you moving
in the direction of all “systems-go”
for the challenges that are looming on the
workplace horizon for 2011-2012.
and Maryann are back and running full steam
with 13 new shows to share with you that are
bigger, more relevant, and more needed than
ever! We are putting out a clarion call to
Leaders in every corner of the listening audience
to step up and out as the world readies itself
for major changes that are currently underway.
ever, our focus is revolutionizing the approach
you all have to everyday situations that test
your commitment and technique to lead in a
different and more effective way. That is
why we are anticipating the message to spread
even farther and wider this fall with the
momentum of “world events” accelerating
and the impact they are having on everyday
people, business and you.
this welcome back session, we will preview highlights
of our fall schedule, and introduce the BREAKTHROUGH
2012 LAUNCH EVENT WE ARE PLANNING.
Wisdom in Our Children: Fostering Leaders of
With special guest, Ralph
Singh, Chair and CEO, Wisdom Thinkers Network
Today’s children are the parents of tomorrow,
the leaders of what is to come and the thinkers
for what will emerge as our world. And Now is
the time to prepare them by bringing the best
of our collective history together. Ralph, the
creator of “Stories to Light Our
Way” initiative is doing just that.
Appraisals for the Weak at Heart
dreaded performance appraisal! It is every managers
nightmare. At least, if you do not know HOW
to make it into a positive experience. Did you
know there should be no surprises in a performance
appraisal process and if you know how to work
it, your employee can actually look forward
to the opportunity to discuss their performance?
Our approach is different, and we know you will
appreciate hearing how it can work for you!
Go: Helping Employees Move On to new challenges
we are all human, there is the tendency for
most of us to hang on long after a position
may be right for our individual or even collective
good in an organization. How do you guide your
people to next steps when it might mean preparing
them to leave the organization or change disciplines,
etc. How can you help your people visualize
their hearts desire while keeping their feet
on the ground?
from Peer to Supervisor: Learning the basics
of shifting your relationships
it a time of celebration or a time of testing,
or both? Getting promoted is something we all
look forward to when the position is right.
The dynamics of “beating out” your
peers can be overwhelming to them and isolating
to you if you do not know who and how to handle
the transition. We will cover three things you
absolutely must know to be successful.
vs Them: bridging the gaps between departments
for managers and employees who are groom-able
for management, today’s “us vs.
them” and “leadership won’t
listen” conversation will specifically
address the phenomenon of splitting loyalties
within organizations. You’ll learn how
to identify the underlying causality that all
factions hold in common. We will also talk the
basics on creating a step-I culture of courage
and connectivity within and between ranks.
Sabotage & Drama: why it is not all bad
drama happens even at work and with adults.
It creates a distraction and charges any situation
with undue stress. When you can help your employees
shift their need for drama, you can change the
look and feel of any team environment. The question
is how. If you find yourself sorting through
the “he said, she said” scenarios
on a weekly basis, you will want to join us
to hear how G, S & D can be a good thing
for you as a leader!
and the Corporate Ladder II
is the most important thing to keep in mind
as you decide to commit to your organization
and face the rigors of walking this path? What
do you want to create using the “ladder
of success” as a tool for transformation
of those around you instead of a tool for divisiveness?
Here is where the rubber meets the road for
your acumen of a leader….
and the Corporate Ladder I
do you define success and your placement on
the corporate ladder? Can you “get ahead”
and still be a nice guy/woman? Can you be the
powerful agent of transformation without “climbing
the corporate ladder?” We will look at
alternatives to buying into this approach to
and Termination of Employees
is often the most dreaded experience of any
leader. We will offer a practical approach that
will turn your perceptions of what firing actually
can mean inside-out. Can you imagine your employee
actually thanking you for the decision? It is
possible. Check in to see what we have to say.
and the Work Day
kind of experience do you want to have each
and every day in the workplace? It depends on
what you thought before you stepped into the
front lobby. How do you maintain your center
in midst of everyone elses drama? How can you
make each day reach it’s fullest potential
for you both in productivity and “calm”
when external events are chaotic?
and the Interview Process
the “right” candidate is not just
about skills and knowledge. It isn’t even
just about “fit”….in fact,
finding the right candidate for your department
or organization can ONLY be done when you know
who and what your organization “believes
in” and embraces in it’s authentic
culture. Authentic is the key word here. There
are a lot of things we would like to believe
to be true about where we work, but more often
than not, what we promote ourselves to be and
the reality of our day-to-day culture is miles
apart. We will talk about the most essential
ingredient to finding your authentic approach
in this show.
and Accountability II: Why do some
leaders need a “fall guy”
blame game extends far beyond sibling rivalry.
In fact, when capturing the loyalty of a new
or seasoned team, side- stepping blame for unpopular
decisions can become a focus in itself. What
happens to a team when you use the idea of a
“bad guy” or “fall guy”
to absorb the impact of decisions or actions
that you know won’t go over well? How
do you rebuild trust if this has been part of
your “modus-operandi” in the past?
and Accountability I
always know when we are bailing out on a dream,
an employee, a situation that requires our attention-
or do we? Becoming accountable is where the
best leaders fail to deliver and the employees
with the most to gain ending up losing the most,
in using their full potential. How do you begin
the process of developing accountability with
your immediate workplace “family”?
How can you introduce universal “truths”
that are relevant, powerful teachers and not
seen as “religious”? We will begin
this important discussion with the key ingredients
to transforming your culture from “he
did it” to “ I own that decision”.
What Kind Of Leader Are You Ready To Be Today?
little “i” and the big “I”
embody all that the Intuitive Leadership Model
is dedicated to creating- the ability to choose,
with eyes wide open, with conscious awareness,
your outcomes as a leader. When we remember
that the little “i” represents all
choices rooted in personality-driven needs,
that spring from ego, and that the big “I”
represents all choices expressed from your “best”
self which considers and embraces choices which
attend to the needs of not just one, but all,
we are given the most profound set of tools
possible to build individuals and organizations
that create the best outcome on every level.
What I believe in, I become. What I hold true,
I hold in vision for others to aspire to. What
I lose sight of, I lose for all who look to
me for guidance and counsel. When you lose your
convictions in leadership, you will not only
lose the loyalty, motivation and respect of
your team, but ultimately, of yourself. What
are your convictions that define your personal
legacy and professional impact. What are your
How do you demonstrate commitment when you are
struggling yourself? What are you committed
to today? Believe it or not, everyday and in
every moment, you are committed to something,
even if it is to not be committed to ANYTHING.
We will talk you through the difficult challenges
of doing the things that committed leaders do:
having the talks that no one wants to have with
employees, looking inward at ourselves and how
we measure up to what the situation requires
in Motion: The Core Skill of Maintaining a Team
of us our “naturals” at building
teams, and frankly, some of us are not. Are
you interested in learning the power in connection
between us all? No man or woman is an island
and now science is proving this to be true.
With every successive breakthrough in the field
of heart/brain interaction, we are experiencing
evidence that our wellbeing and even productivity
is DIRECTLY RELATED to the others at a “physical
level”. Learn what matters here and how
to use it to your advantage.
in Motion: How Do I Use It In Everyday Situations?
last thing you might consider as a motivating
tool is compassion. Why? Because we are just
now emerging out of a set of beliefs about how
to work efficiently. That efficiency has usually
meant suppressing “humanity” in
the workplace. When a co-worker or subordinate
had issues, we have often been told, don’t
be too empathetic, they will take advantage
of you. When someone has had performance issues,
our approach as leaders has been, “crack
the whip harder”. Now is the time where
we can embrace a new approach that embraces
compassion, with surprising results: appropriate
timing and dispensation of compassion is your
insurance toward loyalty and profitability.
Listen for three key tips during this program.
in Motion: How Do I Use It In Everyday Situations?
It is not enough to know what courage is. To
truly lead others, you must choose to use it,
model it, every day and in every way that it
is called for. The problem for most of us is
we stop ourselves before we step up and into
that courageous act. Frankly, human beings obsess
on the “what if” thinking that counterbalance
our decisions to act courageously. “What
if, I lose my job”. “What if I lose
Intuitive Leadership Model - Creation
creates. That is a no brainer. But, what most
leadership does NOT know, is the power of their
original intention and the guiding focus which
feeds the creative process in the organization.
Enlightened leadership listens, engages and
leaves the ego behind in continuous pulse taking.
Leadership sets the bar and holds the standard
of excellence by demonstrating the difference
of creating from the little “i”
and the big “I”. What is your original
intention in any given process or initiative?
Are you being tempted to abandon what you know
is correct in the face of politics or obstacles?
Listen in for what you need to know today to
take your creations to the next level.
Intuitive Leadership Model - Conviction
are you convicted to? What would you be willing
to let go of in the interest of introducing
and sustaining productivity in your organization?
is not for the faint of heart- and carrying
your role forward when others do not share your
vision, will test your strength of conviction.
When employees can’t see proof that all
they are being asked to walk through will be
worth it in the end, how do you “sell”
your idea forward and stay the course? How do
you maintain your belief to keeping a process
moving, when it may take months to accomplish,
or even years? We will continue the discussion
of the six intuitive principles of leadership,
focusing our experience and suggestions in the
direction of conviction.
Intuitive Leadership Model - Commitment
live in a disposable society. We are used to
disposable razors, paper plates and dust mops,
and that approach now characterizes our relationships.
Consider the fact that you spend more time with
the people you work with than those that you
live with, and your perspective may change.
Why do we think it is ok to sweep conflict under
the rug or dismiss an issue with a coworker,
by saying, “heck I only have to work with
the guy.” When you commit to honest dialogue,
leading employees through interpersonal conflict
and instilling in others the musketeer motto,
“all for one and one for all”, we
guarantee you will see more productivity and
increased morale. Listen in for key questions
to ask as you master this leadership dimension.
Intuitive Leadership Model - Connection
you ever worked with someone who acted as if
they were on a desert island when it came to
making decisions? Have you ever sat in a meeting
and watched as a leader acted unilaterally to
move forward and everyone else in the room was
not on board in the least? There is a time and
situation that requires singular decision making,
but all too often, leaders do not anticipate
the impact of their disconnect to the pulse
of the workplace. In a time where we ask everyone
to do more with less, you MUST be able to anticipate
and plan for connectivity. Join us to learn
a few basics on how to begin.
Intuitive Leadership Model - Compassion
work for three reasons after they receive a paycheck:
be seen and acknowledged for their unique
be listened to
be treated fairly
who know how to cultivate compassion get the most
for their investment. Why do we associate compassion
with weakness in the workplace? This show will
demonstrate the power of compassion as a tool
to transform employee’s attitudes.
Intuitive Leadership Model - Courage
the ability and drive to look within at our motivations
and intentions, we can’t begin to transform
anything. Have you known folks who have “all
the answers”, but are decidedly not one
of them? How can others believe in your ability
to take them in a new direction if you are not
walking authentically? We will discuss and identify
what courage looks like and specific steps to
begin your inventory.
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In our introductory show for this new year,
we will discuss the need to rewrite the “rules”
and the first step to take in the journey to
Self Mastery- taking a personal inventory. Our
spring series will focus exclusively on the
dimensions of Intuitive Intelligence- the foundation
of a new “blueprint” that can transform
your workplace and your life with tangible results.
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the holidays, we focus on family, friends and
celebrating life’s joys and pleasures.
As a leader, it can become an important role
to hold the vibration for others as they sometimes
struggle with their own “Gratitude List”
Helping others to redirect their attention is
your gift and responsibility. How do you do
it without preaching, cajoling or demanding?
How does a Leader of Light empower others around
them to step into their co-creative power without
losing themselves in the process? Tune in and
turn on- in the spirit of the season, we will
humbly share our insight with you.
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- When the Master Jesus, of Nazareth,
was born, many relayed feeling a sense of being
reborn within themselves. Reborn with renewed
hope and inspiration, those that followed his
path of mastery, found themselves rediscovering
their uniqueness each and every day. Have you
forgotten that there is no one on this earth
that is just like you, and because of that,
no one else can deliver the exact same experiences
that you are able to. As life continues, we
are tempted to fall into the illusion that each
and every day is only a carbon copy of the day
before. We lose our spontaneity, and ability
to see things “anew”. Follow this
very special broadcast to find the three questions
to ask yourself in your rediscovery process.
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- How do you maintain your strength
of conviction while not shutting yourself off
to others? How can leaders be strong and vulnerable
at the same time? Why would you want to be?
What does it mean to be resilient in today’s
workplace without becoming callous to the needs
and desires of those you lead. It is a balance
that is possible with dedication and a receptive
attitude. Listen and learn what you can do now
to develop your magnificence.
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- All the stars line up and life is
perfect right? We wish. Alignment can be one
of the most demanding, but needed preparations
for you as a new genre of leader. What do you
align with? How does it happen? What are the
benefits? How does being in alignment impact
those around you? Why would you care?
Some call it the dark night of the soul and
yet others call the process the void. No matter
what you call it, let us help you understand
what you want to focus on in order to walk through
this time with joy, not fear.
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- What does it mean to “observe”?
Most people believe themselves to be a good judge
of character or people. They could not be further
from the truth. In fact, when you are busy judging,
you leave no room for observation. When you are
unable to truly observe in a complete and non-judgmental
way, you miss opportunities to lead individuals
to their greatness and organizations to its better
future. Listen and learn to key elements of observation
mastery that you will be quick to use in your
own role as leader.
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up - Why do we fight change? Why do we
cling to unbearable situations which drain our
energy and our lives? Does this ever describe
you: ” Life is what happens to you when
you were busy making other plans.” The deeper
the pain, the greater the wake up that the universe
has in store for you. We attract “events”
as our own tools for change. They may come quietly
as irritants or as a big “wake up”
such as a job loss or life loss.
No matter where they come from, the wake up call
is on time, unfolding perfectly in your life as
a leader. Will you be ready to see the opportunity
when it arrives?
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- When we look at what stands in our way, we often
focus on how to “overcome” it. We
see “obstacles” outside of us instead
of inside of us. We see external events as something
to power through or force to our conclusive will.
In each hindrance is a flow and lesson for you
as a leader. The gift is your ability to use your
innate talent to see past what is obvious and
uncover the flow in the situation.
Yes, this method works. We have seen it. Listen
in to find out how you, too, can use hindrance
in your journey to self mastery.
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- Drama is as drama does….how do you step
away from the drama when it is so easy to get
sucked in while just trying to make a living?
What is the underlying “meshugaas”
(–noun slang. foolishness; insanity; senselessness)that
really is driving the drama that drains your energy
and creativity? We follow a spiritual approach
in unraveling the most prolific drama scenarios
seen in the work place and will discuss how to
turn this time waster to your personal advantage.
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- Why run the other way when you start to get
“uncomfortable” with a person or situation?
We will talk through the NECESSITY AND PURPOSE
for discomfort in your role as a Leader of Light.
As usual, we will share practical tips and a HUGE
idea that will really surprise you!
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Mastery: Becoming a Leader of Light in
a Changing World
An introduction to Mary Schechter and Maryann